Forgiveness is a part of healing one’s relationship with the past. It has two parts:
- Conceptual: Making a choice to redefine how you think of the person you are forgiving
- Experiential: Experiencing that person in the present without the body feelings and emotions that are created by resentment and judgment of their past actions
As I focus on presence, I’m noticing in my body less and less pain of resentment and judgment. I think the experiential forgiveness is happening naturally.
I would like to give it some help with some intentional conceptual forgiveness too. As I listen closely to what my relationships with people actually are, I let go of what I thought they “should” be, and I’m able to redefine them in a way that releases me from the hurt I’ve felt.
Today’s report:
I meditated this afternoon. Eating was another C. I did not feel bad today, but felt tired and distracted. I give the day a 5 out of 10.