Wow, almost spaced on my post today…
Today I’ve been thinking about the costs of playing small in my coaching practice. This is related to uncertainty because it is how I respond to uncertainty that keeps me playing small.
I realized that there are some big costs. Things like I don’t date in part because I’m embarrassed by my income. I don’t travel because it feels like an extravagance. I don’t eat as healthy as I’d like to. And I don’t make near the positive difference in the world that I know I could if I just played bigger.
I don’t think I’ve fully acknowledged the costs of playing small. And by keeping my head buried in the sand, I stay safe and comfortable in what I know. When I do focus on the costs, I feel the fire inside of me burn brighter.
I think this is what I was sensing back in Day 94 of my first 100 Days.
I hate to read you don’t date because you’re embarrassed about your income. You would be amazed at how many people don’t care about that. And for those that do, they aren’t for you. What would you do, if as a life coach, one of your clients said the same thing? Surely you wouldn’t let them remain where they are with that mentality. You don’t need to either. I’m actually an online dating success story…met my fiance through an online dating site. For a lot of us guys dating (both online and offline) is kind of a crazy trial and error process…so now I let guys in on what I learned along the way so nobody else needs to make the same mistakes. When your head is out of the send, drop me a note and we’ll get you back in the dating world.
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